I really enjoyed this weeks class. we talked about dating! i recently broke up with my really serious boyfriend. we met here at BYU-I and then we both served missions, when i got home in February we started dating. we dated for about 6 months, we had plans to get engaged. we went ring shopping, he met my family, and i had a plane ticket to fly out to Arizona and meet his family. but the more i thought about it and the way that i felt i knew that i wasn't as happy as i could be. i didn't feel like i was completely myself. even though he was a great guy and our relationship was amazing, i knew that there was more. so i broke up with him. so this class has been really good for me to get my head back on straight and get back into the world of dating.
One conversation that we had in class i really appreciated. we talked about people "practicing marriage" while they are just dating. meaning going to the temple for a date, or reading Scriptures together. i have roommates that do this and it worries me sometimes. obviously those things are so important and we should be doing them, but i really believe that they are also sacred. they should be done with a spouse, not someone that is just a fling or something that wont develop into a marriage. the class discussion gave me a few ideas of how i could bring this up with my roommates and explain to them that it isnt the appropriate time to be doing those things and they could be doing things much different to build up their relationships with their boyfriends.
Friday, October 23, 2015
Thursday, October 15, 2015
Week 4
This weeks topic, SAME SEX ATTRACTION. not going to lie, it was a little bit of an uncomfortable situation, but i can honestly say that i do look at it in a different lighting now. I have a couple family members, as well as a few friends that struggle with same sex attraction, before class i didnt really know how to treat the subject, do i support them even though i dont support what they are doing? do i tell them i think its wrong?
during class i was able to be reassured that i dont need to tell them what they are doing is wrong, or support the sin, rather i should love them and let them know i am there for them. becuase these people dont want it to happen to them! its a struggle, most people dont wish that upon themselves, or any of their loved ones.
what really got me thinking was when brother williams was talking about the 23 year old boy that came to see him. he said that he was gay and he didnt want to be, thats basically just what he had heard and started to believe it. a couple visits later he came into the office and announced that he was starting to be attracted to his friends that were girls and as brother williams was telling us he got really emotional, i guess that is when i realized how real these things are, and that the atonement is so real because they can overcome these feelings that come from satan.
what are your thoughts on same sex attraction and how have you helped your loved ones with this issue?
during class i was able to be reassured that i dont need to tell them what they are doing is wrong, or support the sin, rather i should love them and let them know i am there for them. becuase these people dont want it to happen to them! its a struggle, most people dont wish that upon themselves, or any of their loved ones.
what really got me thinking was when brother williams was talking about the 23 year old boy that came to see him. he said that he was gay and he didnt want to be, thats basically just what he had heard and started to believe it. a couple visits later he came into the office and announced that he was starting to be attracted to his friends that were girls and as brother williams was telling us he got really emotional, i guess that is when i realized how real these things are, and that the atonement is so real because they can overcome these feelings that come from satan.
what are your thoughts on same sex attraction and how have you helped your loved ones with this issue?
Saturday, October 10, 2015
Week 3
hey hey!
This week's discussions were really great. The topic I want to talk about is CULTURES. Are they equal??? My personal opinion is no. our cultures are not equal, that is why there is racism and such hate in the world, because we do things differently! Being part of the LDS religion, that is my culture. My religion is everything, it makes up who I am and what im doing, what i want to do, and where I am headed. And just as me, there are plenty of people that feel the same way about their religion, or even the place that they are from.
I served a mission in Kansas. I served in a little town called Dodge City. It was an old town, and had a high hispanic population. I fell in love with the spanish people there. I love them so much!! Their culutre is one that i will not forget, they were the nicest, most considerate people i have ever met in my life. they would always let us into their homes, they would make sure that we had food to eat and warm clothes. They were amazing, and going to other places in kansas not everyone treated us like that. I knew it was because that was their culture, they were taught that way, and they teach that way. i love it!!
i believe that our cultures can be the same, through the gospel of jesus christ we can all become one. we can learn from eachother and teach eachother. that will be an amazing day.
This week's discussions were really great. The topic I want to talk about is CULTURES. Are they equal??? My personal opinion is no. our cultures are not equal, that is why there is racism and such hate in the world, because we do things differently! Being part of the LDS religion, that is my culture. My religion is everything, it makes up who I am and what im doing, what i want to do, and where I am headed. And just as me, there are plenty of people that feel the same way about their religion, or even the place that they are from.
I served a mission in Kansas. I served in a little town called Dodge City. It was an old town, and had a high hispanic population. I fell in love with the spanish people there. I love them so much!! Their culutre is one that i will not forget, they were the nicest, most considerate people i have ever met in my life. they would always let us into their homes, they would make sure that we had food to eat and warm clothes. They were amazing, and going to other places in kansas not everyone treated us like that. I knew it was because that was their culture, they were taught that way, and they teach that way. i love it!!
i believe that our cultures can be the same, through the gospel of jesus christ we can all become one. we can learn from eachother and teach eachother. that will be an amazing day.
Wednesday, September 30, 2015
Week 2
hey again!
this week i learned so much in class. we talked about family dynamics. i have never thought about this topic. obviously i knew that each family is different, but never thought about why and the behind it.
My family is very laid back. we love to spend time with each other. we have a family motto that is work hard to play harder. Saturday is our family day, we usually all get together and go for a dirt bike ride or go camping in the summers and in the winter you can find us at our cabin snowmobiling. my family is the most important "thing" that i have. my parents are my closest friends. this week i learned that we are all a system. we work together to make our family work. my parents are a sub system and my brother and sister in law are a sub system to our little family. i find it amazing how it works!
In the text book reading something that i found really interesting was when it was talking about the young boy that was schizophrenic. that wasn't because he was mentally disabled but because he had not developed communication skills and going "crazy" was his way of coping with the situations. communication is so important in our families. i remember when i was younger my parents would get in an argument and i was so scared that they were going to get divorced or that something bad would happen, now i understand that just because they were raising their voices or in an argument doesn't mean that they were fighting, it was conflict, and that is the way that they worked it out.
bottom line, my family is the bomb. i hope everyone is as lucky as i am to have a family as great as mine.
this week i learned so much in class. we talked about family dynamics. i have never thought about this topic. obviously i knew that each family is different, but never thought about why and the behind it.
My family is very laid back. we love to spend time with each other. we have a family motto that is work hard to play harder. Saturday is our family day, we usually all get together and go for a dirt bike ride or go camping in the summers and in the winter you can find us at our cabin snowmobiling. my family is the most important "thing" that i have. my parents are my closest friends. this week i learned that we are all a system. we work together to make our family work. my parents are a sub system and my brother and sister in law are a sub system to our little family. i find it amazing how it works!
In the text book reading something that i found really interesting was when it was talking about the young boy that was schizophrenic. that wasn't because he was mentally disabled but because he had not developed communication skills and going "crazy" was his way of coping with the situations. communication is so important in our families. i remember when i was younger my parents would get in an argument and i was so scared that they were going to get divorced or that something bad would happen, now i understand that just because they were raising their voices or in an argument doesn't mean that they were fighting, it was conflict, and that is the way that they worked it out.
bottom line, my family is the bomb. i hope everyone is as lucky as i am to have a family as great as mine.
Friday, September 25, 2015
Week 1
This week we had a couple great discussions that i really want to share my thoughts on. also, i do just want to through out there that these are my personal beliefs, im just a college girl in small town rexburg idaho, i dont really expect this to go anywhere, just a place for me to put down my thoughts.
so lets get down to the nitty girtty.
GAY MARRIAGE...
its a real thing now, i think back on my life and same sex relationships were not really a thing until my junior year of high school, or at least i didnt hear about it until then. i had a couple friends that came out after we graduated. my personal beliefs are that marriage is between a man and a women. period. it is gods plan for us to have children, that is not possible to do with same sex relationships. if god wanted it that way, he would have made it part of the plan. during this life we are here to please god, to follow his commandments so that we can live with him again, it makes me sad to see family members and friends struggle with such things that are driving them away from the presence of our heavenly father. but having said that, i hate the sin, and not the sinner. i sin. everyday, im not saying the person is an awful person if they do sin, because we all do! i love my friends and family that have chosen that life style, even though i know there is a better way for them, i still love them just as i did when i met them.
the next topic is FERTILITY..
when to have kids! i remember when i was little i would always say i wanted at least 15 kids. i loooooove kids. i wanted a cheaper by the dozen type of house. but as i have gotten older ive realized that that is a huge number! the worldly things start to take control. we dont have time for a baby right now, we dont have the money, we just want to focus on school, we wont be good parents.. the list goes on and on. but i think that if we truly wanted the best for us and our families, we would simply pray and make the deicision with our spouse and the lord. he knows best, and the furture children we will have are with him now! he knows them, and knows exactly what we need from them and vice versa. im so grateful that i need to do is get on my knees and ask, and then act. i believe that god will always provide a way. wether that is now, later, or in the next life. his plan will be fulfilled.
if you have any other further thoughts or comments on my post please let me know! please no hateful comments, again these are just my thoughts, not anyone elses!
xo
ashley
so lets get down to the nitty girtty.
GAY MARRIAGE...
its a real thing now, i think back on my life and same sex relationships were not really a thing until my junior year of high school, or at least i didnt hear about it until then. i had a couple friends that came out after we graduated. my personal beliefs are that marriage is between a man and a women. period. it is gods plan for us to have children, that is not possible to do with same sex relationships. if god wanted it that way, he would have made it part of the plan. during this life we are here to please god, to follow his commandments so that we can live with him again, it makes me sad to see family members and friends struggle with such things that are driving them away from the presence of our heavenly father. but having said that, i hate the sin, and not the sinner. i sin. everyday, im not saying the person is an awful person if they do sin, because we all do! i love my friends and family that have chosen that life style, even though i know there is a better way for them, i still love them just as i did when i met them.
the next topic is FERTILITY..
when to have kids! i remember when i was little i would always say i wanted at least 15 kids. i loooooove kids. i wanted a cheaper by the dozen type of house. but as i have gotten older ive realized that that is a huge number! the worldly things start to take control. we dont have time for a baby right now, we dont have the money, we just want to focus on school, we wont be good parents.. the list goes on and on. but i think that if we truly wanted the best for us and our families, we would simply pray and make the deicision with our spouse and the lord. he knows best, and the furture children we will have are with him now! he knows them, and knows exactly what we need from them and vice versa. im so grateful that i need to do is get on my knees and ask, and then act. i believe that god will always provide a way. wether that is now, later, or in the next life. his plan will be fulfilled.
if you have any other further thoughts or comments on my post please let me know! please no hateful comments, again these are just my thoughts, not anyone elses!
xo
ashley
Thursday, September 17, 2015
Hi! I'm Ashley.
Welcome to my blog!!
First I want to share a little about myself so you can better understand me!
My name is Ashley, I am 21 years old. I come from a family of 5. I was born and raised in Idaho. I love anything and everything outdoors: dirt biking, snowmobiling, camping, hiking, fishing; you name it! I recently returned from serving a mission the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and I am currently attending BYU-I.
One of the classes I'm taking is about the family. Through this blog I will share my thoughts and feelings on the things that I learn in class. I've never kept a blog before, so I am fairly excited to see where this will go and to be able to express myself in new ways. My class mates are doing the same thing, you can find their blogs in my reading list. Thanks for stopping by! I hope you like the read.
:)
Ashley
First I want to share a little about myself so you can better understand me!
My name is Ashley, I am 21 years old. I come from a family of 5. I was born and raised in Idaho. I love anything and everything outdoors: dirt biking, snowmobiling, camping, hiking, fishing; you name it! I recently returned from serving a mission the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and I am currently attending BYU-I.
One of the classes I'm taking is about the family. Through this blog I will share my thoughts and feelings on the things that I learn in class. I've never kept a blog before, so I am fairly excited to see where this will go and to be able to express myself in new ways. My class mates are doing the same thing, you can find their blogs in my reading list. Thanks for stopping by! I hope you like the read.
:)
Ashley
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